We're entering the Christmas season,
the time when we'll be hearing and offering wishes for "Peace on
earth" and good will toward all people -- Christians, Jews,
Muslims, and many others. The cards we send one another will convey
those messages, and the hymns we sing will also include those words.
Even the gift tags on those packages under the tree will often repeat
them.
I send you wishes of peace and good
will. To them, I add this advice from Mahatma Ghandi: "You
must be the change you want to see in the world."
I think Ghandi meant that we must "walk
the talk." Once we put the two ideas together, we find we've
made a formidable challenge for ourselves: If I wish for peace on
earth, how must I "be" to advance that cause? If I wish
you good will, how must I act that toward you and all people? How
would you do it? Isn't this what Jesus did?
And this is not just about peace with
our nearest friends. It's about all the people in the world. If we
want to see "peace on earth," peace in the whole world, how
must we behave? What must we do? For some of us (like me, I
confess), the question is also, "What must we not do?"
Much of what we do in our day-to-day
lives we do competitively. We try for the best parking place, the
best office location, the best seats in the sanctuary... The rub
comes when we lose these little competitions -- how do we treat the
winners? Do we respond peacefully, with good will, and showing
respect? Or do we respond angrily, or aggressively?
Scale it up. We lose the "perfect"
job to another candidate, or worse, we lose the job we've had for a
while. Or, we lose a spouse or significant other to another person.
Or, we lose our home to the bad economy.... Do we react to the loss
peacefully? Do we react with good will toward those whom we blame
for the loss?
Bigger still. We lose a child, or a
friend, or a fellow citizen, or many fellow citizens in a war or a
far-away attack. Do we/Can we react peacefully, with good will? Or
do we make war instead?
Jesus taught about this dilemma in
Matthew 5 (and 6 and 7): "Blessed are the peacemakers...Blessed
are the merciful...Everyone who is angry with [someone] shall be
liable to judgment..." Clearly, it is desired that we be makers
of peace, purveyors of mercy, free of anger.
But if we look at some of our (my)
usual behaviors, we find that we're not really making peace but
confrontation, and unhappiness. We're not showing mercy but perhaps
contempt. And we might often be angry. In other words, we're not
being "blessed."
And I'm including here our behaviors as
we support or oppose public policies by our involvement in the public
discourse; and as we support or avoid certain companies and
industries by our investments in them and purchases from them. Are
these behaviors of ours also bringing peace and good will to the
world, or are they bringing something else?
So if we really mean what we say
in those wishes for peace and good will, let's each try to change our
individual and societal behaviors to be that way -- peaceful, and
merciful, and of good will toward all people. Merry Christmas now
and all year long!